From the poll that I did of my readers and of my followers on Twitter, I know that the majority of women struggle with keeping the house running as smoothly as we like. We all have different tolerances for dirt and clutter and we are all in different places in our lives.
One thing we HAVE to learn to do is cut yourself some slack. You may be overwhelmed right now. You may not know where to begin. You may be doing too much in your life right now. You may have a house full of young ones who DO take all of your time.
The second thing you need to do is to find a way to do the bare minimum and do it regularly. My friend Heather Solos over at Home-Ec 101 wrote a great post to a mother who was struggling and possibly even suffering from postpartum depression. She gave her a list of triage items to do when you feel you just can’t tackle it all.
When you feel like you can’t get anything done, do these every day.
- Feed, bathe, and dress the kids.
- Make sure there are no dirty diapers sitting out.
- If there are animals in the house, all of their waste must be removed immediately.
- Take out the trash, especially any food waste that may be on the counters / coffee table.
Empty the dishwasher, load the dishwasher. If this doesn’t take care of all the dishes, fill the sink with soapy water and soak the rest.
If you do not have a dishwasher, rinse, scrape, and stack neatly the dirty dishes. Begin washing as you can.
Gather it in a place that makes sense. It’s ok to be behind on laundry, you just have to appear to be making the effort.
These are your mandatory things and on some days even they will feel nearly impossible.
There are times in life when we have to just do the things to get by. Will your house be on the cover of the Better Homes and Gardens? No, but that is okay. Finding a level of order that works for you and your family will help you be more at peace with yourself.
I have a great resource that may help you from Nony at A Slob Comes Clean. She has 2 e-books that have great reviews!
Home Ec 101 – Skills for Everyday Living
Many times we struggle with the household because we just don’t know HOW to do something in the house. We may have never learned from our mother. Heather Solos has written an awesome book. It would kind of be like the Home Ec text bookthat would’ve been used 30+ years ago, but for modern women. I encourage you to check it out! Available in print and in Kindle format!