Children bring so much joy to a parent’s life. With the pressure of bringing another life into the world, and nurturing that child into a mature responsible adult, there also comes an increased load of stress.
There is the long-term stress of “Am I raising my child right?” and “Will he ever grow up and be able to take care of himself?”
And then there is the day-to-day stress. There are many things that contribute to the stress that a mom feels each and every day. Of course, some times that stress level seems off the chart high. Below are some of the things that can make us feel stressed:
Demands on your time- There is so much to do, and just not enough time to get it all done. Everyone is always wanting your attention or wanting you to do something for them. If not your kids, your spouse, your boss, your clients, the kids’ teachers, etc….
Relationship demands- The relationship that you build with your child is important, but so is your relationship with that child’s father and/or your current partner, whatever the case may be. You also crave friendships with other women, and feel it important to maintain relationships with your extended family as well as your family of origin.
Financial demands- The demands of raising a child today can be daunting. Especially if you take it upon yourself to provide your child all those things that you never got to do. The earning of money, as well as the proper spending of it can be quite stressful.
No time alone- With all of the above stressors, you very rarely get a moment to yourself. You are lucky if you get to go the bathroom by yourself. To have a half hour or half a day to yourself seems like a fairytale.
Self doubt- Many women doubt their ability to succeed at this thing called mothering. They second guess themselves and decisions that they make. The media doesn’t help as they bombard us with all these things we should be buying and doing. Of course, most moms would never admit to this self-doubt, but it lingers just below the surface in many of us.
Feeling like there is no end in sight- One of the most overwhelming issues of the stress in parenthood is that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Especially when your kids are 6 months, 2, and 4, and they are climbing all over you, and crying, and making messes, and won’t go to sleep, and on and on and on…
Possibly the biggest factor in mom stress
I don’t mean to make light of any of the things above. They can all bring a considerable amount of stress to today’s moms.
And I have written many helpful posts to try and provide some practical resources to help with the day-to-day stress.
Believe me, I DO GET IT. So please don’t shoot me when I tell you that one of the biggest contributors to your stress is between your ears.
That’s right. In your head.
More correctly, in your perspective, your way of thinking.
We tend to worry and over think our situation. We need to take a minute and step outside of ourselves.
5 ways to help you reduce the mom stress that goes on in your head:
1. First of all, relax, and remember, THIS TOO SHALL PASS. Nothing lasts forever. If you dwell on your current situation, it won’t make things better. Accept that, for right now, this is your season of life. Read: 10 steps to a happier mama
2. Next, cut yourself some slack. There is no such thing as a perfect mother, so stop trying to be one. Read: Wonder Woman doesn’t live here anymore
4. Learn to laugh. To find humor and joy in your crazy stressful days. Kids do and say the FUNNIEST stuff! Enjoy it! Read: 8 ways to find joy everyday
5. Find some friends who are in the same boat with you. You can laugh together and you can also cry together when the days get really tough.
Next time you get super-overwhelmed, do a check-up from the neck-up to make sure your way of thinking isn’t stinking!