Any of these things, or something similar may have applied to you:
- You are going to the grocery store at 10 pm to get ingredients make brownies for your child’s class tomorrow.
- You wake up at 4 am to clean house because you are hosting a bible study at your house this morning.
- You snap at your husband when he asks what’s for dinner when you have spent all afternoon cooking for a friend who just had a baby.
- Your 4 year old asks you to read a story and you tell her that you are “too busy” right now.
- You put off writing on your own blog because you have agreed to guest post for 3 other blogs this month.
- You are constantly checking your smart phone so you know the score of your daughter’s game, which you could not attend.
- You run all over town, multiple times, to find the “just right “ items for your son’s birthday party.
- You drop what you are doing, and run your teenager’s text book to them at school.
- You work frantically to get all your kid’s clothing tagged for a consignment sale that you signed up for 3 months ago, and drop-off is tomorrow.
- You forego a shower (and use lots of deodorant) to make sure your car is cleaned out because 3 ladies will be carpooling with you to a retreat this morning. (Not that I have ever done this one.)
Many times we say Yes because we don’t want to disappoint someone. And that is understandable. Yet there should be a balance. You are not your child’s servant.
What would they think?
Another main reason we say Yes instead of No is because we care about what others think of us. We are concerned that we may not look like a good parent, or that we don’t love our kids as much if we don’t do “these things”. Typically, those thoughts and feelings are more subconscious, but they are there nonetheless.
I want to encourage you to lighten up a bit. For one thing, you are WAY more worried about how you seem than your friends actually are. They probably have their own insecurities on their mind.
And another is self-conscious because her suitcase is older and worn and others may think less of her.
By being more comfortable in our own imperfection, we can be more empathetic with those around us.
Remember this: We are our own worst critic.
But don’t say Yes out of guilt, or out of embaressment. Life is too short.
What have you said Yes to that you wish you had not?